Plus-size? More Like My Size | Ashley Graham | TEDxBerkleeValencia

Plus-size? More Like My Size | Ashley Graham | TEDxBerkleeValencia


Translator: Romina Meffe
Reviewer: Denise RQ You are bold, you are brilliant,
and you are beautiful. There is no other woman like you. You are capable. Back fat, I see you popping over
my bra today, but that’s alright. I’m going to choose to love you. And thick thighs, you are just so sexy,
you can’t stop rubbing each other. (Laughter) That’s alright. I’m going to keep you. And cellulite, I have
not forgotten about you. I’m going to choose to love you even though you want to take
over my whole bottom half, but you’re a part of me. I love you. It’s true, honestly. I felt free once I realized
I was never going to fit the narrow mold that society wanted me to fit in. I was never going to be perfect enough for an industry that defines
perfection from the outside in. And that’s OK. Rolls, curves, cellulite, all of it. I love every part of me. My name is Ashley Graham, and I’m a model and body activist. Over the last 15 years, I’ve come to the conclusion
that there is no one perfect body. Because I, like you, possess
a wonderfully unique and diverse physique. Now, the fashion industry
may persist to label me as “plus size”, but I like to think of it as ‘my size’. In fact, did you know that the plus size fashion industry
actually starts at a US size 8? And it goes up to a US size 16. So basically what I’m saying is
that the majority of this room right now is considered plus size. How does it make you feel to be labeled? I really feel like we need
to start looking beyond the plus size model paradigms to what it actually means
to be a model in 2015. My journey begins in Lincoln, Nebraska. I was 12 years old and scouted in a mall. At 13, I signed with
a major modeling agency and was traveling the world. I was shooting big campaigns, and before I even graduated high school, I had been to multiple
different countries. At 17, I graduated and moved to New York, and while most kids are going through
their self-discovery stage in college, my self discovery stage
was in the midst of catwalks, catalogs, and casting calls. I was working
as a full time plus size model. Back in Nebraska, I was
known as the “Fat Model”. The girl who is pretty for a big girl. I always hated answering that question:
“What do you do for a living?” I would see that person’s eyebrow
raise as I would reply: “I’m a model!” I’d have to quickly qualify with:
“Well, I’m a plus size model.” In fact, here is my very first
editorial for YM Magazine. And, you are reading it correctly,
“cantaloupes-large breasts”. I was helping women across America
at the age of 15 dress their big boobs. But you know what the first thing that someone in middle school
pointed out to me besides– well, besides the obvious? Was that fold above my knee. That fat fold above my knee. As a young model, my confidence was tugged at
and pulled in all different directions. I struggled to achieve true confidence. I would go home and look
in front of the mirror and only hate what I saw. And to fill the void on the inside, I began to cave to all the vices
being thrown my way. Between the parties, the men, the alcohol, I was looking for self love,
for affirmation from somebody, when in reality, I didn’t love who I was, and I couldn’t seem to get a handle
on regulating my own weight. I began to face my insecurities head on. And instead, I was filling
my life with temporary fixes. I, like so many young women,
have struggled to love who I am. And Dove’s global report
on attitudes towards beauty actually did a survey with thousands
of women in ten different countries. And you know what
the most striking result was? That only 2% of women
find themselves beautiful. 2%! We need to work together to redefine
the global vision of beauty. And it starts with becoming
your own role model. As a curvy woman it was the assumption that I should look up to
Marilyn Monroe or Jennifer Lopez mainly because they were two of the most
notable curvy women in the public eye that were being praised for their curves. But these weren’t my role models. In reality, the woman I looked
up to the most was my mother. She told me I was beautiful, and she never devalued herself. So why would I? She told me and taught me that true beauty comes from within and that validation and self worth
must also come from within. In my lowest moments of insecurity this is when I realized that I had to reclaim my body
and its image as my own. Plus-size fashion is
an 18-billion-dollar industry. And now IMG, the world’s
number one modeling agency, has signed me and other models
that are not defined by their size. My body, like my confidence,
has been picked apart, manipulated, and controlled by others
who didn’t necessarily understand it. I had to learn to reclaim
my body as my own. And in reclaiming my body as my own, I understood as a woman
that I had a greater purpose. I had a greater purpose
to redefine beauty. The feminine beauty. Curvy models are becoming
more and more vocal about the isolating nature
of the term plus size. We are calling ourselves
what we want to be called: women with shapes that are our own. I believe beauty is beyond size. With so much emphasis on
the body and external, it’s no wonder that we all
suffer so much internally. But you know, people
in the fashion industry actually told me that I would never be in magazines
let alone the covers of them. Well, I guess we’ve proven them wrong. Five covers in a little over a year. And I was one of the very first
curvy models to be featured in Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition. (Applause) Thank you. Never let anybody tell you that you can’t. I have achieved, and I’m still achieving
what was seemingly impossible. My goal is to give a voice to young women. To give a voice
to young women who struggle to find someone they can look up to. For girls who struggle to look
inside the mirror and say, I love you. For women who feel uncomfortable
expressing their confidence they’ve locked away inside themselves. For women who have relinquished
their rights to someone else. It is critical that both men and women
create a body positive environment. Uplift the important women in your lives. Create a safe space for them
to express their body and their beauty for who they are
not because of who they’re not. Be you. Be real. Be authentic. Be your favorite kind of woman. Don’t let anybody else take that job. And remember this is
the generation of body diversity. The current is changing. I now invite all of you to #TEDxBV15 with your own self-affirming words. There may not be a full-length mirror
in front of each of you today, but I want to challenge you to think about what you would want
to say to yourself in the mirror with your own self-affirming words. Thank you. (Applause)

100 Replies to “Plus-size? More Like My Size | Ashley Graham | TEDxBerkleeValencia”

  1. It is curse on Indians that these people haven't seen such women and suppress other people conspirerers over female availability

  2. We in africa want to own her up. Those are our curves she looks just like me. Must be my lost twin😐🤓

  3. 0:09 TO 0-17 I COULDN'T BELIEVE HOW I FELT LIKE THE LUCKIEST MAN ON THE PLANET BECAUSE I COULDN'T UNDERSTAND MY EYES WERE LOOKING AT PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST SEXIEST AMAZING BEAUTIFUL PERFECT BODY ON ANY WOMAN IVE EVER HAD THE HONOR TO LOOK AT OMG

  4. Its called plus size because it’s the average PLUS some.

    If you want YOUR size, make your own clothes and don’t confuse body shaming with practicality and economics of mass production.

    Also, you could lose a few. Not body shaming, just giving friendly health advice.

    And this is NOT about being a woman. Overweight men need to lose weight, too.

    Mind you, there are people who LOVE thick, curvy people. That’s fine. Find one and be happy. Just don’t pretend it’s the holy grail.

  5. This girl is a very healthy kind of big. Some people are a very unhealthy kind of big. Even some people smaller than her are less healthy. But there is no reason we should promote an unhealthy lifestyle.

  6. Why wouldnt you love your body u have a flat stomach and an hourglass figure. She is proportionate everywhere and very beautiful. Easy to love urself…..

  7. She is soo beautiful ! She looks like a healthy curvier person… With poise and proper posture… As well as good style and good communication skills… Heavier people should take notes from her !

  8. She's plus size and her legs are just as thick as a super skinny person like me (43k) how on earth is that possible lol

  9. this is all great as a speech and all that, but all she says we know. but: does it make me feel better and more attractive in MY eyes having lost 7 kg and bein 63 kg and not 70kg? damn, YES. it suits me to have a defined waist, the clothes look better on me, etc. be you, be real, be be be, is very easy to say in her shoes. and she still has that slim beautiful face, my would not be that slim if I was her weight, and her figure is still favoured by our body picture. but a lot of women gain weight around the waist and it soon starts to look very unproportional. so nice speech in theory, it is not that easy out there in real life. especially, if you are not a PLUS SIZE MODEL getting the affirmation even from your job.

  10. You are thick not plus! See there is a spectrum where you look amazing with little bit weight for girls, men doesnt have that luxury!

  11. iyi de tüm şişko karılar böyle tatlı balık etli değilki amk. bu karıya 5 atarsın bi gecede belki ama aynı boyut ve kiloda bazı karılar pönç oluyor. yani

  12. I see no problem here you just trippin, be yourself. Dont like your body hit the gym it will work out. Now I need to watch some science or engineering cool

  13. I hated my plus size body for so long and punished it by starving, throwing up food, taking diet pills. I did everything I could except love myself. Learning to lov myself in every way. Learning to love my body. All of that has been life changing for me. I love this so much.

  14. Well she's obese and that's a fact . But she can definitely adore being unhealthy . Thats utterly Upto her. Stop telling people that they can justify their bad health in the name of loving themselves. Love yourself but dont love being unhealthy.

  15. Pretty skinny face helps! When Im plus size I have 3 chins. not a good look. But as long as you're healthy and you like the look… go for it!

  16. Yani buda bir bakış açısı tabi ve asla kınamıyorum! ama bana kalırsa bu abla yenilgiyi kabul etmiş birisi. Yani mücadele etmemiş ve yağlarını sevmeyi seçmiş. Bana kalırsa bu hiç sağlıklı değil ve rahat değil konforlu değil. şuanda vermem gereken 7 kg var ve kendimi çok kötü hissediyorum bir an önce kurtulmayı umuyorum. çünkü 15 kg fazlam vardı ve şuan 7 kg fazlam var. böyle yaşamak istemiyorum. zorluyor beni. bacaklarım göbeğim hareket kapasitemi zorluyor…

  17. I don't know what ppl are talking about!?!?! Her body is perfect and preferred over some anorexic model suffering from bulimia…

  18. Body positivity is for those people who have given up on living a healthy lifestyle, and has given in to eating junk, processed, and sugary foods and living a sedentary lifestyle. It promotes laziness, hedonism, lack of discipline, and narcissism. Not surprisingly, women embrace it a lot more than men, because they don't like to work on self development. They feel they are good enough the way they are, and if others don't see it, then it's other people's problem not their own.

  19. Yea but no one ever talks about the really skinny girls/ boys they also get bullied ,the girls for not being “thick” enough and boys for having stick arms and no muscles not trying to hate but just sayin

  20. I am happy that she is happy, but such unhealthy lifestyle should not be promoted each human body is different what works for me may or may not work for you
    Some people in spite of eating a lot don't put on weight some on other hand don't eat lot yet put on weight due to thyroid etc
    Human Bodies are like block chains related but also each one having it's own unique specifications
    Standardisation has never worked and will never work

  21. Ashley, I LOVE you. You are beautiful and so inspirational. As a fellow curvaceous goddess, I appreciate you.

  22. Some point or other Asley Graham is just talking about herself rather than an universal talk. But it is great to hear from her. Love Ashley Graham❤️❤️

  23. Како је дебела,мислим немам ништа против ал ово је страшно,најгоре што је све више оваквих жена у Србији

  24. She wouldn't have been a 'model' without such a beautiful face. I think she could lay off on couple of hamburgers.

  25. I'm crying. this is so heartwarming. I'm one of those girls. every time I look in the mirror I hate myself. I'm like Ashley a person who is curly and I'm 18 a size 16 sometimes 14 Australia. but I just can't seem to like the way I look. I always compare myself to other people. I just want to be able to be in a dress with my cellulite and curves and love myself. Ashley is a person who I look up too.

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